fluctuating attitudes affect the other person. If
you are negative, they are not going to feel
your love, even if the negativity is not directed
at them.
If you love them, you will protect the energy
you bring to each day so, like a painter, you
brush up against them with smiles and smudge
positivity into their day. Everyone loves to be
around someone that boosts the mood, it’s
contagious, right?
One of the best ways to show him you love him
is by being a beacon of positivity. If you make
it a point to wake up every day with a smile,
and choose positive words at all times, he will
really enjoy your energy.
What does it mean to say I love you anyway? It
kind of means I enjoy your energy right? Guard
your words and avoid speaking negatively about
other people. Focus on the positive traits of
people and of yourself. If you really want to
make someone’s life better because you love
them, radiate love.
2. Be supportive and excited about his life
Showing love and putting it into action means
giving a hoot what he cares about. You got to
get on board with what makes him tick, why he
spends his time the way he does, and show him
that means something to you. Maybe he loves
sports, maybe he’s a family guy, and maybe
he’s a bookworm or a jack of all trades.
Whatever it is that he wants to do with his life,
it’s your mission to help him get there.
Believe in his dreams; help them become a
reality by encouraging him, but not pressuring
him. Positively reinforce his goals by putting
your energy into them too. You don’t need to
lose sight of your own goals, but show your
support.
Maybe find a class he can take and pay for it.
Maybe get him a book about something he is
learning. Maybe acknowledge his hard work and
book a message. Words of encouragement go a
long way but actions go farther. Do things to
further his goals, but don’t get in the way and
try to control things. You can be the judge of
ways to support him more than just saying
‘that’s a great idea, good luck.’
3. Follow through on your word
This is a big one. If you say you will do
something, don’t flake out. If you love someone,
you will value their time and energy. It’s
important to show people you think about more
than your own agenda or they really won’t feel
you have the capacity to value anyone besides
yourself.
Being accountable and reliable is a rare trait,
and it shows a lot when you are organized and
responsible. It gives him a sense of security.
Part of love is trust; following through on your
word builds it.
4. Plan stuff he loves
Well, here is an obvious one. But we often
forget it. We get so caught up in our own lives
that the partner becomes more of a
convenience than someone we actively show
we love every day. Don’t fall into the habit of
letting days pass by without planning things for
him. You don’t have to spend a fortune to put
your love into action. Movies are cheap and you
can surprise him with popcorn and a movie you
think he would like.
5. Make I Love You tokens
Shower him with your love so he feels it. Go on,
use your hands and make something. If you’re
not crafty, look for ideas on Pinterest. If you’re
totally intimidated, just buy something. But
seriously, thoughtful and sentimental gestures
like old school love letters are a nice way to
put your words into action.
Surprise him in fun ways with little ‘just
because’ gifts. Playlists, art, treats and tickets
are all fun ideas, and you can’t go wrong with
pictures (yes I know printed pictures are old
fashioned but they’re cute). Personalized
jewelry is long lasting and makes a nice
statement of your love for him too!
6. Put your love into food
We have all heard that the way to a man’s
heart is through his stomach, and that idea
holds water. You can show him how much you
care by baking, chopping, searing, roasting,
blending and peeling your way into his heart.
I’m not guaranteeing he will love you if you
make him a delicious raspberry drizzled
chocolate tiramisu, but I would.
Keep in mind his preferences and remember: he
will be impressed when you go out of your way
to make it special. No microwave dinners and
no easy mac. Use your imagination or look up
ideas online if you’re stuck.
7. Look for ways to lower his stress
Often our loving actions can be pointed to
helping our man just enjoy life. Maybe that
means diffusing essential oils, lighting candles
and playing calming music at home. It could
also mean making lavender, chamomile or kava
tea. Maybe it means doing something relaxing
like taking a walk on the beach together. If you
don’t live near a beach, a nature walk is just as
relaxing!
Maybe he has a lot on his plate and if you have
some spare time, you could help him out.
8. The final touch
If he’s had a rough day, chances are he’s got
some stress building up somewhere in his body.
The shoulders are the first area to hold tension,
and you can offer to give him a massage.
Maybe watch a YouTube video about Thai
massage or Swedish massage, so what you do
is more effective. He will probably really
appreciate this.
9. Don’t act single
Here’s for calling a spade a spade. If you’re
going to tell him you love him, you might as
well act like it. If you are used to getting
attention from guys, that will need to change. If
he sees you flirting, he’s not going to feel like
you love him all that much.
When you show him you are confident with who
we are, he will feel like he can trust you. It’s
common for people to still act single when they
start dating someone, and then they wonder
why their man leaves. You can’t have your cake
and eat it too. If a man has your heart, you
won’t be interested in other guys anyway.
Be considerate and tell anyone who might be
interested in you that you are seeing someone,
so your partner feels like you’re not hiding him.
Make it clear to people that you’re in a
relationship, so he knows you’re proud to be his
girl.
10. Introduce him to your family
Nothing says I want you in my life more than
bringing him into your circle of trust. It makes
your love for him seem much more real when
you introduce him to your family. Of course,
you want to be serious about him before you
introduce him to them, out of consideration for
your family. They don’t need to meet every
passing interest, just the good ones.
Your family doesn’t want to get attached to
someone they’re never going to see again, so
try to abide by the six month rule. Basically,
once it’s been six months, you have a pretty
good idea if things are working or not.
The other option is to ask him if he’d like to
invite his family to do things with you guys. He
will know you think highly of him when you’re
trying to get to know his family and considering
spending time with them. When you invest time
in your relationship, it’s putting your love into
action.
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